Bridesmaid Says "Bridezilla" Told Her Not to Get Pregnant After Miscarriage so She "Wouldn't Be Too

This AskReddit thread requested bridesmaids to proportion the bridezilla stories that successfully ruined their friendships.

Watch out for Bridezillas.

Getting married is irritating, and I get that in case you are throwing a party that's meant to mark what is meant to be the most vital day of your existence, you are going to want things to pass off without a hitch.

You need it to be magical, you wish to have it to be epic, you need other folks to have a good time and you wish to have it to really feel like a fairy story. Which method you need to be firm about your vision for the day.

But there's a distinction between being tough and decisive and being a complete bridezilla. Unfortunately, these bridesmaids' buddies crossed the line with their demands.

1. The dye task.

It's something to expect your bridesmaids to put on the identical color costume. That's beautiful same old. But difficult a particular hair color? Unfortunately, that is what person kmmurky was asked. "All bridesmaids except for me were brunette. She asked me to dye my hair brown for the wedding because she 'wanted to be the only blonde.'"

Rather than alternate her hair color, this proud blonde opted out of the bridal party, and it seems like she made the proper selection. "Thankful to this day since I heard the dresses and bachelorette party cost all the other girls more money than I make in a month." Way to dodge a bullet!

2. Sorry for your miscarriage, but...

Losing a pregnancy is a worrying revel in, and you'd suppose even a stressed bride might be slightly extra sensitive to a bridesmaid who had suffered such a loss. MommaBearJam's buddy used to be far more involved in herself.

The would-be bridesmaid had simply survived a catastrophic ectopic being pregnant the place she misplaced the baby and nearly bled to death. Shortly after this trauma, her pal requested her to be in the bridal birthday party — with one ridiculous caveat: "She told me that I would be required to wait to try to have another baby until after her wedding in 1.5 years," MommaBear said.

But wait until you pay attention the reason why — not that there are lots of reasonable explanations for that request. "Not because there would be a small child at the wedding, not even because she didn’t want me fat at her wedding... But because if I lost another child, it would take away from her engagement and wedding." Needless to say, she not most effective bailed on the wedding ceremony, however the friendship.

3. How dare your father die.

J-squire lost her father in a while prior to a pal's special day, and it feels like that was once just too inconvenient for the bride. "My dad had the audacity to die six weeks before the wedding, and she couldn't understand why that superseded her wedding details for me," she stated. Thankfully, the enjoy wasn't a complete loss. "I met my husband at her wedding, haven't spoken to her since."

4. Thanks a lot, dad!

Redditor remberzz related a story she heard from her mom, who was once a marriage photographer for a few years that tops that ultimate one. "Long story short, the father of the bride had a heart attack and as he was being carried out on the stretcher the sobbing bride yells, 'How could you ruin my wedding like this?!!!?'"

5. Taking out a loan to pay for a marriage.

The first pink flag in hotel_girl985's tale? The bride wanted Sixteen bridesmaids. "In the year and a half between the engagement and wedding, all but 6 dropped out (3 were her sisters)," she recalled. "She wanted 16 separate shades of blue and 16 different styles of dresses for each bridesmaid, then threw a fit when the store didn't have that many options."

Oh but wait, there's more. "She demanded everyone pay for a week-long bachelorette party in Vegas (including her share) and then got mad when some people opted out." The bridezilla also anticipated her parents to shell out $100K for the marriage ceremony, and the worst part is, they did, going into debt to quilt the cost. "They took out a loan they are still paying off," she endured. 

Other demands included anticipating bridesmaids to have similar hair color. Her complete checklist of calls for would set her attendants again greater than $2,000 apiece. But the ultimate straw wasn't over cash however her wedding ceremony toast. The bride "demanded to see my toast a month prior so she could edit it. She ended up rewriting it totally."

6. How dare my father die.

It's beautiful unhealthy when even your individual sister does not want to be to your marriage ceremony. SashWhitGrabby recollects her sister's antics when she had the audacity to ask who used to be going to foot the bill for her elaborate bachelorette weekend.

"When I asked 'Hey, who will pay for this?' my sister got p----- that I even asked. When I also reminded all the bridesmaids that our father who had stage-4 cancer wasn’t doing so well and that maybe the bachelorette/bridal shower should be close by, they all flipped thinking I was being insensitive to the bride."

As a results of her "insensitivity," Sash used to be kicked out of the wedding ceremony birthday celebration, which used to be high quality with her. Sadly, their father passed on to the great beyond two weeks after and wasn't even able to attend the wedding because he used to be in hospice. "To me, she put herself before our ailing father, and it still makes me mad," she said.

7. The sanctity of bridesmaid dress shopping can not be violated.

User caryatidonvacation says the bride she attended "spent a lot of time crying and carrying on whenever she didn’t get her way because 'it was her wedding and we should all do exactly what she wanted.'” And when she didn't feel one member of her party was living up to the responsibility, she kicked her out and ended their friendship. The offense? She "couldn’t make bridesmaid-dress buying groceries because she was in poor health and had to go to the clinic."

The nerve of some people.

8. Frugality schmugality.

I guess it's easy to be "frugal" if you expect your bridal party to hand-make all your decorations on top of the other expenses of being a bridesmaid. SpectralShifter says her best friend seemed like exactly the sort of bride who wouldn't go off the rails. Wrong.

"She didn’t have that many buddies so it was simplest me and one other lady as bridesmaids. She requested us to hand-make ALL her decorations for the wedding ceremony (I installed 15 hours per week hand-making decorations, all outdoor of working and going to college full-time)."

On top of the free labor, the bride expected her girls to pay for a week-long bachelorette getaway, plus their dresses. "I wanted to in finding one thing affordable, however she picked dressmaker matching attire that we had to pay for."

In the end, she spent nearly $1K, plus she did the bride's hair and makeup for zero dollars. Understandably, this bridesmaid "simply felt in large part taken advantage of and unappreciated." Unsurprisingly, the friendship didn't survive much longer.

9. Ruining a bunch of relationships for $1,500.

Marriage should be founded on honesty. But in addition to being honest with your spouse-to-be you should probably be honest with your wedding guests. Redditor yelloworchid says the bridezilla in their story lied about how many people the venue could accommodate, and understaffed it. As a result, the place was super crowded and the bridesmaids' dates were put to work "putting flowers, working to get kegs and waters, pouring the champagne for visitors, putting in the entire venue the day earlier than."

She also lied to her hair and makeup artists about how many people needed services, forcing some to do their own, and lied to the caterers about the guest list, meaning they ran out of food and booze — two must-haves for a good reception.

Clearly, this bride was trying to shave money off her budget, but as yelloworchid observes, "All in all, I believe her lies stored her $1500, however price her close friendships, as her perspective towards the entire situation used to be indignation instead of being apologetic."

10. Too big for the bridesmaid dresses.

Imagine being so superficial you'd cut out a dear friend over her dress size! That's what volcanicpale's "best pal" did. "I was easiest pals with the girl, actually we did everything in combination. She assembled her wedding ceremony birthday celebration and didn’t invite me." The reason why this bestie was cut out of the picture? "I found out later I wasn’t invited because I was obese and her mother idea that will limit bridesmaid costume possible choices and throw the wedding ceremony pictures ‘off.’ At least I do know dodged a bullet."

11. Nothing a little blow won't fix.

Bridesmaid gigatroness still has fond feelings toward the bride she attended, but she admits her friend is "a horrible bride and inebriated."

"It was once a 3-hour ceremony with two venue adjustments," she said, and the bride was very demanding. "'I need what I would like!' and 'it is my day!'" The bride had two wedding dress changes! During the second change, gigatroness says the bride was "status there half-dressed and inebriated yelling about how the cake wasn't best."

This b----- bridesmaid whipped the bride into shape despite the fact there was an onsite wedding planner. In gratitude, the planner allegedly offered the bridesmaid cocaine for her effort, "loudly, in entrance the an aunt who later told the bride."

12. Multi-level marketing scheme.

It's hard to decide what's worse: a friend turning into a bridezilla or a friend falling prey to a multi-level marketing scam. User killrtofujalapenobiz got both in the same bride!  She demanded very costly beauty treatments of her bridal party, prompting her to tell the bride she "could not afford to have the whole thing carried out professionally with such short realize."

The bridesmaid eventually bowed out and they didn't speak again for years, "till at some point she despatched me a message, asking for me to buy from her multi level marketing marketing campaign." 

13. This astute observation.

AntiRaz doesn't have a personal account of a bridezilla but has seen plenty of the fallout. "I was in three weddings in the span of one year and one fascinating thing I spotted used to be that there is always one bridesmaid that the bride stops being pals with after the wedding ceremony." In fact, this Nostradamus of nuptials says "you'll be able to start to see which bridesmaid it is gonna be about halfway via the engagement."

14. Etsy clothes.

How awkward would it be for your boss to ask you to be her bridesmaid? Just ask gabygygax, who didn't feel she was in a position to decline despite not knowing her very long. It didn't go well. 

"First, I ended up website hosting each her bachelorette AND her shower as a result of no one in her life deliberate anything, and she showed up to her personal bathe an hour late, hungover and dressed in pajamas when she mandated that everybody costume for a luncheon."

Then, rather than use a traditional bridal salon, the bride ordered dresses on Etsy. "They looked like seafoam green raw silk pillowcases with holes cut for the hands and head. They tied in large bows in the again and all of us appeared like literal infants,
gaby says.  

Maybe that's why she had to enlist her staff for the task? 

15. Bipolar mom bridezilla.

Redditor gateauxes's bridezilla was once her mother, whom she walked down the aisle.

"I've had purple or blue hair for quite some time," she explains, "and I checked almost a year in advance with my mom that it would be okay for my hair to be blue for the wedding. Checked again every few months, every time I was told to stop insinuating that she was a bridezilla, of course my hair was fine."

You know where this is going. "Two weeks before the wedding, my own mother threatened to disinvite me from the wedding if I didn't fix my hair."  So she did, spending over $300. Instead of being thankful, she "came home and my mother told me I was shallow for changing my hair to keep up appearances. Sigh."

16. Let's snap footage in 10-degree weather.

Hexagogo found themselves in a marriage "where the bride planned two separate bachelorette weekends for herself and got mad at anyone who couldn’t/wouldn’t spend two 3-day weekends at ~$500/each."

Then, the week of the marriage ceremony arrived. It used to be February in the Northeast so, naturally, "the temp for the big day was forecast to be a high of 10 [degrees]," yet the bride insisted on photos outside "without coats 'because we can’t hide the dresses!'"

Even the photographer objected — can you blame them? Not best did the bride throw a are compatible, "she stopped talking to 75 percent of the bridal party because of their refusal to accommodate her outrageous demands. To this day, years later, she still complains about how her bridesmaids ruined her wedding."

17. I want you to put on white but it surely can not be too white.

BARDLover "wasn't a bridesmaid, but a witness to one" whose entire bridal birthday celebration walked out on her, except for the maid of honor. "Of course it was because no one loved her, and everyone wanted to ruin her day, not because she ripped a bridesmaid's dress from the neck down, in an open area, because it was too white." Before you side with the bride right here, you must know "the bride insisted on all the maids wearing" that individual gown.

18. No purses!

Briseadh stated it was numerous little issues with her bridezilla, however two big examples stood out.

First, she went "turbo crazy" when certainly one of her maids wanted to go away the bachelorette birthday party an hour early, then enacted petty revenge for the perceived offense. The bride bragged that she had positioned the offending bridesmaid "at a table with a very attractive girl because she knew she was insecure about her looks and wanted her to feel self-conscious as punishment."

That bridesmaid wasn't the most effective target for this bride on the warpath. Briseadh says she "pitched a fit at me in front of the whole bridal party because I had the nerve to bring a bag with my purse / car keys in it after she had mandated we were all to leave our stuff at her house...with no way of picking it up as she and the groom were staying in a hotel that night." Like lots of the bridesmaids in this list, she ended the friendship shortly after.

19. Go into debt for my wedding ceremony or you're a unhealthy buddy.

A chum of awayfrommymind's was kicked out a wedding birthday celebration "because she couldn't spend the $1,500 to go to the bachelorette party" as well as to the other prices. "The bride told her to take out a credit card to pay for it." As one in all their mutual pals put it, this bridezilla did her an enormous favor in the end by way of kicking her out of the wedding ceremony.

20. No extra photography for you.

Posting on his wife's behalf, benfranklyblog relates her take of woe as the photographer at her stepsister's wedding ceremony:

"Normally my wife would charge between $4000 and $6000 for this, and we were flying across the country to attend this wedding mostly out of family obligation. So bride was getting an amazing deal." 

Rather than be grateful, the bride was once a whole nightmare. "We knew it was going to be a [mess] but we’d committed so we bought our plane tickets and planned to come."

However, per week earlier than the bride went "totally psycho" and posted "nasty awful things about half of her wedding party, including my wife." As a end result, they bailed on the wedding ceremony and his wife withdrew her services. Apparently everyone used to be ill of the bride at this point — including her own mother, who also skipped out. "All [told] they had 8 people at their wedding, and only got cellphone pictures." As for Ben and his spouse? "We had a nice little vacation and visited a lot of friends in the area."

21. You can't sit down down, despite the fact that you might be present process chemo.

CasuConsuIto's story may most sensible all of them. The bride insisted a pal may just not take a seat down all over the rite or use a wheelchair down the aisle — even supposing she was severely weakened by means of chemo treatment.

And it gets worse. After the wedding, the bride's new sweetheart's mother was additionally recognized with breast cancer, albeit a far more constructive prognosis. You'd think that may make her much more sympathetic to her in poor health buddy's needs however the bride bring to an end all contact. "Wouldn’t call back, respond to texts, nothing."

Sadly, the bridesmaid lost her struggle. At the funeral, the bride who "wouldn’t even reply to a text" confirmed up to the viewing. "I flipped her off and told her to stop acting," CasuConsulto says. "I actively hate her."

Can't say I blame her.

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